On Submission, Part I

When my husband became a believer everything changed. Not the very next day, but very rapidly we both grew closer to the Lord and each other. I was encouraged to grow in my own relationship with the Lord by seeing Brandon’s commitment. I had accepted Christ as a child, but had no (human) guidance and never grew.

I began my study searching verses to strengthen my marriage. After our miscarriage and my sorrow, which grew as time increased, we had some difficulties in our marriage. Brandon was harsh and I was weepy and instigating. I sought out passages to teach me my role as a woman and a wife.

I read Proverbs 31 and felt miserable seeing how I did not measure up. The whole rising early thing and hard work, I was not on track there. I loved my husband dearly, and told him so very often, but did not always have the law of kindness in my lips.

I then read Titus 2:3-5 and 1 Timothy 2:9-15.
I was angry. Paul was a woman-hater, I decided! “Learn in silence with all subjection” “Not usurp the authority over the man” “Obedient to their own husbands” I was livid! I paced back and forth in my bedroom trying to reconcile this in my mind.

I believed firmly that the Bible was inspired of God. I knew that Paul was writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. So then this was not coming just from one man at one time, but from the Lord God himself.

But didn’t God love me as much as my husband? Did he really think less of me because I was a woman? I turned back to His words for answers.

Philippians 2:
[5] Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:
[6] Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:
[7] But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
[8] And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

[30] I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me.

Jesus was submissive. He submitted to the Father. He humbled himself and was obedient, even unto death. Jesus is no lesser than God, yet he submitted to the Father.

It is not about being lesser or greater, but having different roles. God the Father does not have the same role as God the Son. I do not have the same role as my husband. God loves us both very much, but we are not the same. I came to learn, this is a very wonderful thing.

[3] But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

One Response to “On Submission, Part I”

  1. Karen says:


    I was searching for something to help me with the same thing you had been dealing with “submission”. I too have been fighting this passage and I felt my husband was abusing this passage. But, then I read your blog and the passages and as you the understanding became clear.

    I am a strong woman, sometimes more hard headed then yielding. I was and for the most still having trouble. I realized my submission isn’t to my husband but to the will of God. My husband is a man of God and a good husband. I believe he is truly concerned with my obedience to God and not to him.

    Thank you for sharing your feelings. The scriptures which you have posted are one’s I need to keep in my heart and need to repeat everyday. Because those scriptures and prayer are the one’s that will get me through my stubbornness. God bless you.


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